Well now, let me tell ya ’bout somethin’ that’s been botherin’ me. It’s ’bout my son and that girl he’s been seein’. I ain’t too sure what to think, y’know? First, it’s all sweet and nice, but then, it starts feelin’ like she’s tryin’ to take over everything. Don’t get me wrong, I ain’t got no problem with her, but I can tell she’s always makin’ herself the center of attention, like she owns the whole world.
My son, bless his heart, he’s a good boy. But ever since this girl came around, it’s like she’s tryin’ to push him around. He don’t even notice it, or maybe he does, but he don’t say nothin’. The more I watch ’em together, the more I start thinkin’ maybe she’s just a little too much. Not that I’m one to judge, but I gotta say it’s hard watchin’ someone tryin’ to control things in my boy’s life. You see, I always thought he’d choose someone who’d be good for him, someone who’d make him happy without causin’ him no trouble.
Now, I ain’t sayin’ I don’t like her. She’s a nice enough girl, I guess. But there’s somethin’ about the way she acts, like she’s claimin’ him and everything around him. You know the type, always makin’ sure everyone knows she’s there and always tryin’ to make decisions for him. I see her sittin’ there with him, whisperin’ in his ear, and I just wonder, what’s really goin’ on? Why does she have to be so loud and bossy all the time? Can’t she just let him breathe a little?
When I talk to him, I try to be careful, not to upset him. I tell him, “Son, you gotta be sure she’s treatin’ you right. Don’t let nobody push ya around, no matter how much they say they love ya.” But he just looks at me, says everything’s fine, and I don’t push him no more. Sometimes, though, I can see the doubt in his eyes. Maybe I’m just overthinkin’ it, but as a mother, you just know when somethin’ ain’t quite right.
Now, what’s really got me worried is the way she talks ’bout his friends and family. It’s like she don’t want him spendin’ time with nobody but her. One day, I caught her tellin’ him he shouldn’t go out with his old pals from school. “They ain’t no good for ya,” she said. I didn’t like that one bit. Nobody tells my boy who he can and can’t be friends with. I’ve raised him to be his own man, and I’ll be darned if I let someone try to control him.
My son’s a good boy, like I said. But I’m startin’ to think that girl might be takin’ advantage of his kind heart. He don’t like to argue with people, and she knows that. I ain’t sayin’ she’s a bad person, but it sure feels like she’s usin’ him. I just want him to see it, so he can make up his mind. I don’t want to step on his toes, but as his mama, I gotta protect him from any harm, even if it’s a girl who thinks she knows better.
I tried talkin’ to my other son about it. He said, “Ma, you gotta let him live his own life.” And maybe he’s right, but it don’t stop me from worryin’. I can’t help it. A mama’s job is never done, and if I see somethin’ that don’t sit right with me, I gotta speak up. But I also don’t want to drive my boy away. It’s a tough balance, I tell ya.
So, if you’re in the same boat as me, with your son’s girlfriend actin’ all possessive and overbearing, here’s what I say—keep watchin’. Don’t jump to conclusions too quick, but don’t let it slide if you feel like your boy’s not bein’ treated right. A mama’s love is strong, and we know what’s best, even if our sons don’t always see it. All we can do is hope they figure it out for themselves. In the meantime, just be there for ‘em, and if they need ya, you’re ready to help. After all, nobody loves ‘em like we do.
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